What a BFF (Best Fertility Friend) Would Say – Ch. 7

Aug 24, 2020

These blog posts titled "What a BFF (Best Fertility Friend) Would Say" are a hodge-podge of random tips to give you strength and assurance as you try to get pregnant.  I hope they help!

With appreciation for inviting me on your journey,


Remove Your Limits

The question “Can I get pregnant at this age (or with my condition)?” is the limitation.  That's a binary question with "yes" or "no" as the possible answers.

Instead, ask "How can I give myself the best chance of success?"  The answers are endless.

How to Choose an Effect Pre-natal

If you’re not taking a prenatal, you really should be.  It provides nutrients that you may not be getting enough of from your foods alone. 

Unfortunately, most of the pre-natals I’ve seen should be thrown in the trash.  Often the worst offenders are prescription pre-natals.  I wouldn’t touch those things with a 10 foot pole. 

So today I’m going to talk about what you should be looking for in a high quality prenatal that will help you get pregnant and not harm your chances because they’re loaded with filler chemicals. 

The first huge red flag is if it has food coloring.  Read the label and if it has food coloring which adds zero value to a prenatal, then you know it will have other chemicals that are potentially harmful to your fertility as well. 

The next red flag is if the daily dosage is listed as one per day.  In a high quality prenatal, it’s impossible to fit everything into one pill or capsule.  If it IS in one pill then you’re talking about synthetic ingredients made in the laboratory which won’t be as useful or absorbed by the body.

So what should you look for?  My personal preference for pre-natals is one that is whole food based.  Since the purpose of taking pre-natals is to bridge nutritional gaps from the foods you’re eating, your body will absorb nutrients that are food sourced.  Because they’re whole food based, they usually require a daily dosage of 3-6 capsules.  There are many excellent quality pre-natals. 

The brand I currently recommend is Garden of Life’s Vitamin Code Raw Prenatal which is made from nutritious, organically grown, raw fruits & vegetables.  That’s important because it adds naturally supporting antioxidants, vitamins and nutrient co-factors for optimal absorption.

Align Your Heart for Your Baby

You can’t be focused on the absence of baby and get baby. The former is a vibration of scarcity and neediness. The latter is an abundant energy from which the belief that this baby is yours to have flows forth.

To shift your state to one that serves you, do this exercise..

Write at least one page of appreciation...all the people and things (big and small) that you are grateful for . As you're writing, luxuriate in how your heart fills with love.

When you can stay in love more often than not, that's when wonderful things start to happen.

A 3-Step Strategy if You’re Not Getting Pregnant

If you’ve been trying to get pregnant for awhile now (maybe years), consider a new approach.  In order to improve your chances of success, you should 3 things asap:

  1. Take the time to re-evaluate your strategy.
  2. Implement the necessary changes consistently.
  3. Wait for the results.

That makes sense, right?  So here’s where a lot of people miss the target...

When re-evaluating (it doesn’t matter if you’re trying to get pregnant naturally or with IVF or inseminations), you need to look at the big picture - that means what can you do to improve your fertility naturally, including your physical, emotional, and spiritual health.  Women are often hyper-focused on improving the physical apparatus of the eggs, ovaries, and uterus and don’t pay nearly enough attention to their emotional health.

Whatever changes you do implement (nutrition, supplements, exercise, stress management), be consistent with it.  People get excited in the beginning but then revert to their old habits.

It’s like when the new year hits and people get motivated to work out but then they start slacking off again within a couple of months.

So, consistency is key to your success when implementing change.

Finally, women vastly underestimate the amount of time that is needed for these changes to affect the body enough for a healthy pregnancy to take place and hold. 

For women over 40, after implementing significant changes, it can take anywhere between 6 months - 2 years. 

You need patience to stick it out for the long haul.  That means you have to pace yourself with your money, time, and energy. 

This is a marathon, not a string of 28 day sprints (or however long your cycle is).  

In summary, my 3 tips for you to consider if you’re still trying to get pregnant after years of trying are:

  1. look at the big picture
  2. be consistent with your improvements
  3. have patience.